A few days later

A few days later, and what have I learned?

  1. You can know someone is being abusive, but it will still hurt.
  2. When something like this happens in a job negotiation to a woman, there will always be at least one or two well-meaning friends to ask her if she tried negotiating. It was worth it to me realize that they meant well and to fight down my indignation.
  3. Anxiety problems and abuse are not a good combination. It’s been tough these last several days.
  4. That department chair and his protege were so out of line.
  5. Yes, in 2013, there are still men who go on power trips trying to take advantage of women financially in professional contexts. Unbelieveable, but true.
  6. I still need feminism. We still need feminism. Oh my gosh, do we ever need feminism.
  7. I am fortunate in my friends.
  8. I have friends who are knowledgable about academic hiring who are willing to take the time to talk to me, reassure me, and advise me.
  9. I am still angry, and I expect to be for a while.
  10. Fair or unfair, the tenure-track hire in the relationship has more negotiating power in these situations than the person who would actually be doing the non-tenure-track job.

In case you never saw it, or forgot about it, enjoy Jon Stewart on Teachers and Wall Street.

And one more for shared outrage with my feminist friends: Saudi Arabia lets women ride bicycles, but only for fun, not for transportation. This is not from the Onion. This is real news. Yes, in 2013!